Most children will move at least once during
their childhood. While moving can often be exciting, it can
also mean leaving a familiar home, school, and neighborhood,
and saying good-bye to best friends and schoolmates. Through
a child's eyes, even a short-distance move can be hard to
accept.
The following hints will help ease the
transition.
- Involve your
child in the move as much as possible.
As tempting as it may be to send your
child off to grandma's while you deal with all the
details, reconsider! Your child gains control over the
scary unknown by helping with move-related activities.
For example, have your child pack and label a box of
favorite belongings. Let them open the box as soon as
you arrive in the new home.
- Familiarize
your child with the community before you move.
Distance permitting, drive to your new
home and neighborhood a few times prior to relocating.
Subscribe to a local newspaper. Call the Chamber of
Commerce for pamphlets about your new community. Start a
scrapbook with pictures of your new home, yard, child's
room, school, and playground.
- Hold on to
some links to the past.
Encourage your child to write or send
cards to old playmates. Arrange periodic calls or
visits.
- Read books
together on how other children have coped with moving.
Some moving companies have special
pamphlets and coloring books for children.
- Talk over
family feelings about the move.
Openly talk about feelings of sadness
and hesitation as well as what is good about the move.
Ask what worries and also what excites your child most
about moving. Stress that it will take a while to adjust
to the new surroundings and feel settled again.
Emphasize the support and security of the family itself.
- Once
relocated, join the new neighborhood.
Get to know parents with children the
same age as your child. Join a family-oriented community
center. If your child is interested, join a scouting
group or other neighborhood activity. Search out music,
sports, or dance opportunities. Look for ways to help
your child to feel comfortable and accepted.