Nutrition
Family meals are important for your child.
They teach your child that eating is a time to be together
and talk with others. Letting your child eat with you makes
her feel like part of the family. Let your child feed
herself. Your toddler will continue to improve using the
spoon, with fewer and fewer spills. It is good to let your
child help choose what foods to eat. Be sure to give her
only nutritious foods to choose from. For many children, now
is the time to switch from whole milk to 2% milk.
It is very important for your child to be
completely off a bottle. Ask your doctor for help if she is
still using one.
Development
and Discipline
At this age, children often say "no" or
refuse to do what you want them to do. This normal phase of
development involves testing the rules that parents make.
Parents need to be consistent in following through with
reasonable rules. Your rules should not be too strict or too
lenient. Enforce the rules fairly every time. Be gentle but
firm with your child even when the child wants to break a
rule. Many parents find this age difficult, so ask your
doctor for advice on managing behavior.
Here are some good methods for helping
children learn about rules and to keep them safe:
- Child-proof the home. Go through every
room in your house and remove anything that is either
valuable, dangerous, or messy. Preventive child-proofing
will stop many possible discipline problems. Don't
expect a child not to get into things just because you
say no.
- Divert and substitute. If a child is
playing with something you don't want him to have,
replace it with another object or toy that he enjoys.
This approach avoids a fight and does not place children
in a situation where they'll say "no."
- Teach and lead. Have as few rules as
necessary and enforce them. These rules should be rules
important for the child's safety. If a rule is broken,
after a short, clear, and gentle explanation,
immediately find a place for your child to sit alone for
2 minutes. It is very important that a "time-out" comes
immediately after a rule is broken.
- Make consequences as logical as
possible. Remember that encouragement and praise are
more likely to motivate a young child than threats and
fear. Do not threaten a consequence that you do not
carry out. If you say there is a consequence for
misbehavior and the child misbehaves, carry through with
the consequence gently, but firmly.
- Be consistent with discipline. Don't
make threats that you cannot carry out. If you say
you're going to do it, do it.
- Be warm and positive. Children like to
please their parents. Give lots of praise and be
enthusiastic. When children misbehave, stay calm and say
"We can't do that. The rule is ________." Then repeat
the rule.
Some children at this age are showing signs that they are
ready for toilet training. When your child starts reporting
wet or soiled diapers to you, this is a sign that your child
prefers to be dry. Praise your child for telling you.
Toddlers are naturally curious about other people using the
bathroom. If your child seems curious, let him go to the
bathroom with you. Buy a potty chair and leave it in a room
in which your child usually plays. It is important not to
put too many demands on the child or shame the child about
toilet training. When your child does use the toilet, let
him know how proud you are.
Spend time teaching your child how to play.
Encourage imaginative play and sharing of toys, but don't be
surprised that 2-year-olds usually do not want to share toys
with anyone else.
Mild stuttering is common at this age. It
usually goes away on its own by the age of 4 years. Do not
hurry your child's speech. Ask your doctor about your
child's speech if you are worried.
It is important to set rules about
television watching. Limit total TV time to 1 hour per day.
Watch television shows with your child. Ask your child
questions about what the characters were doing and how they
were feeling. Children should not be allowed to watch shows
with violence or sexual behaviors. Find other activities you
can do with your child. Reading, hobbies, and physical
activities are good alternatives to TV.